Writing is a solitary thing. And I’m already a solitary person by nature. So when I became a writer, I developed a tendency to sit in my office and work, often not surfacing until evening when the rest of my family returned home.
When we moved to the city this tendency was exacerbated by the fact that in the city any and everything can be delivered. And with the internet usually ordered as well. All of which led to a doorman in my building once asking me how I’d enjoyed my trip as I walked out the door. Trouble was I hadn’t been away—I just hadn’t left the apartment in like a week.
Of course I’m also online a lot. And I “see” my friends regularly through email, Facebook, twitter, and blogs like the Whine Sisters. In fact, the internet while amazing and can’t live without worthy, is partly to blame for my further isolation. And because I’ve always been pretty comfortable hanging with just me…I don’t really realize how much I miss actual face to face time with my friends until I’m forced away to a meeting or conference.
And then—sheer heaven. This weekend, I had the most marvelous time. First with my dear fellow whiners Kathleen O’Reilly, Julia London and Sherri Erwin. But also with so many other wonderful writer friends I’ve made over the years. Seeing each and every one of them was like a gift, and I felt myself relaxing and blossoming and reveling in just the wonderful nature of camaraderie. Kindred spirits.
So for those of you, who like me, tend to hole up in front of your computers writing, don’t forget to get out there occasionally—friends feed our souls. And lift our spirits and heck, I’m so lucky to have so many amazing people I can call friend.
How about you? Too much time in front of the computer on your own? Or are you a social butterfly how occasionally needs to force a little down time?